The Way of the World
Today he was supposed to babysit for this family made up of
a mom and three kids that just moved into town, in fact, this guy I know had helped them move for his girlfriend, need
I say this again? For the girlfriend.
Him and his girlfriend helped this family move into town alright. They found
them a place to rent, they babysat and toted the little two year old around and
ran here and ran there running errands, unloading boxes, cleaning and the like.
The oldest is a girl of sixteen years of age and already has the
responsibilities of an adult parent with her nine year old sister and her two
year old little brother. At first sight, I thought She was a sweet girl.
But, today when my friend arrived to babysit this little two
year old so the mom could go to work and the sixteen year old and nine year old
could go to school the sixteen year old girl proceeded to yell and scream at
him and call him everything in the book. Why? Well, his pickup broke down and
the mom in this situation was letting him use one of their vehicles for helping
her with her kids. That was working until my friend faced this unruly sixteen
year old girl telling him that the vehicle he was using was hers and that it
had been her birthday present and she wanted her keys and for him to leave and
to get out!
That was it! He dropped her keys and he left. Walked right
out and started heading down a long stretch of dirt road to call me to come get
him. I even tried to talk to the sixteen year old but she wanted nothing to do
with me.
So, here I sit back in my little room after having left for
a dramatic showing of life. My friend is so upset. His girlfriend who he was
doing this all for was Two-Hundred miles away at a very serious Dr.’s
appointment and he was so worried about her and he was trying to explain things
over the phone to the “mom” in this situation and he knew that his hands were
tied. The sixteen year old stayed home to take care of the two year old and
proceeded to text the “girlfiend” all the rest of that day filling her head
full of lies about my friend and trying to tear my friend and his girlfriend
apart. It was awful. My son refused to babysit again because of the sixteen
year old and for a Twenty-One year old man, babysitting a two year old when the
sixteen year old girl is in the house trying to get ready for school is a
set-up waiting to happen for the Twenty-One year old boy and that was no place
for him to be. The situation was all in good intentions but I think things are
about to get worse. This sixteen year old girl and her little family, I think,
have just taken my friend and his girlfriend on a ride and it may not be over
yet.
There was also a situation with the borrowed vehicle that
was nothing but an incident involving my friend when he tried to back out the
day before and almost hit an installation van. He didn’t but the sixteen year
old sure decided that because of that and that my friend raised his voice to
her when she yelled at him and that automatically made her go into a defensive
mode because she knew she over stepped big time and wasn’t sure what he was
going to do because she does not know him. She used those two things to decide
that my friend was a bad guy and proceeded to treat him as such and to make
everyone in her path believe this too.
I think I know why. You see, this guy is Twenty-One years
old and has Autism. Most people do not know that he has this. It’s something
that has so very little effect on him that no one knows until he yells. Then he
gets loud. Most of the time he knows how
to control it but, he also has a very hard time understanding other peoples
expressions and whether they are angry or kidding around. This man is a
wonderful man. He is so kind and understanding. He is so sweet and has never
been rude in his life. His manners are impeccable and he just loves everyone.
I think that knowledge may have been involved with the
sixteen year old girl’s feelings towards him.
The lesson learned here is that in the world, the way it is
today, so many people have been so hurt by one another that judgment gets
passed before anyone even knows each other. Life has made it that way. People
have to make snap decisions on each other because there are so many bad people out there that safety does
not allow time to get to know someone before you judge because if the person is
bad and they get one second into your life then, you could lose everything,
even your life.
I see no answer to this other than to except it for
something that can’t be changed. All the people are hurting each other so much
that no one can be anything for anyone else because of fear, and rightful fear.
This is the way of the world today.
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